Hey Hollywood, Your Bad Moms Casting is Super Lame

Hey Hollywood,

We saw your new movie trailer for Bad Moms. I have to say, we are excited about it. Finally a movie about moms who are sick and tired of having to be perfect. Finally a movie about the ridiculous pressures moms face whether they stay home full-time or work full-time. Finally a movie that’s as funny and honest and clever as we are. Except, what the fuck is with the 30 year old super model looking moms playing our roles?

I get that in Hollywood there are two age ranges, 20-35 and 65-Almost Dead. But for this movie you couldn’t have come up with four actresses in their 40s? Because if you think young 30s moms are at the point of meltdown, you don’t know much about the breaking point. Meltdown, I’m talking full-on fuck you and your expectations of me as a mother meltdown, doesn’t happen typically until around when the 40s hit. Up until that point you are still trying desperately to have it all, balance it all, not complain about it all, and above all, you are trying to keep your shit together.

For starters, at 30 most women are just having their first child or have little kids. And when your kids are really little you are thinking all these things about the bullshit of being a female parent, but you haven’t quite formulated what you are so pissed off about yet. Mostly, you are too exhausted to articulate it in any meaningful way let alone take on the PTA president. I mean, some PTA presidents are actually pretty cool, and eventually you realize they aren’t the enemy, but that it’s thousands of years of female oppression you are fighting.

In your 30s, you are really, really hoping that you can maintain your calm and not have to rail against the entire patriarchal system that makes you responsible for arts and crafts, creative healthy snacktime, school events, and every other lame-ass, vagina-associated aspect of having kids. In fairness, I know some 30 year old moms who get it, but even still, it germinates as you age. I promise you that no matter how much you think you are losing it in your 30s on the raw female parenting deal, it’s nothing compared to the middle aged mothers’ rip her face off with her bare hands frustrations.

I also get that in Hollywood there are two body types to choose from, model-perfect fit, and isn’t she loveably overweight? But for this movie you couldn’t come up with four women who are reasonably shaped? Two women? Okay, fine…one woman who resembles anything close to the reality of a woman with kids? I love these actresses, but it’s tough to imagine any of them have had a baby. And I know they have, which is nuts. But to ask us to suspend disbelief that these women look like most of us is asking a bit much.

Maybe in Hollywood all women with kids look like Mila Kunis in a bra, but honestly that scene is tough for me to even relate to. I watched it a couple of times and I barely noticed her bra; I was too fixated on her abs and her waist and the complete lack of cellulite and arm fat. Mila, God bless her, has what I call “FU looks.” It’s like FU money; she can wear a dirty diaper around her boobs and she’s still hot.

Look, Hollywood men, because it’s you guys who really run this place and decide what is acceptable to be seen on the big screen in terms of women’s ages and body types, you guys screwed up. And not by casting these four women. Good for them. I love them and wish them well and know they will rock it. But you screwed up by creating a pool of actresses that lacks anything even remotely relatable to the rest of us. No one has bad hair, gray roots, muffin tops, big thighs, or bunion feet. There’s not a blemish to be seen. No one has a wrinkle, for the love of snot. And don’t even get me started on that ridiculous loose curl hairstyle you give to every woman in movies these days. As if any mom in the world has those perfectly separated loose curls that probably took the hair professionals two hours to create. It’s enough already from you guys.

I fear that you guys have sequestered yourselves from the reality of what women with kids in their mommy-life crisis years look like. Maybe we should rescue you from your underground bunker and show you the real world?

And to be clear, we don’t blame the actresses in Hollywood at all, we blame you. We know they won’t work if they aren’t in shape. Even our biggest female fuck it heroes…Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Kristen Wiig, and Julia Louis-Dreyfus have succumbed to the killer-fit body Hollywood demands. They don’t do it because they want to have a personal trainer to achieve some body the rest of us will be depressed about. No. They do it because they want to get hired and we support them.

Hollywood, we love you, but we hate you too. What you’ve really done is systematically removed all normal looking women from the realm of movie actresses. And you’ve done it for so long that we hardly recognize it. My first response to this trailer was, hell yeah, finally a movie about honest moms fighting the power! Then someone pointed out that none of them even have a muffin top. And she was right. How can that even be? Would it be too much to ask if one of them had a damn muffin top? It would be, though, because you Hollywood guys don’t even know what a muffin top is and would be at a bakery scratching what’s left of the hair on your heads trying to figure it out.

The reality is that we are excited to see the movie. It does look funny, and hell, we are so happy to have a movie about cool moms with an all-female cast talking about something other than their loves interests, we will overlook just about anything. But we need you to know, Hollywood, that you aren’t fooling us. We see what you are up to with making women 36-64 years old invisible. We are sick of you making it hard for actresses our age to work. We are sick of your depiction of middle-aged moms as 30 year old, fresh-faced beauties with kick ass unattainable bodies and perfectly coiffed hair. And someday when we rule Hollywood, we will have our revenge and all middle-aged fathers will be played by Zac Efron…shirtless!


M.Blazoned, The real deal of bad moms, muffin top and all


  1. Rory on February 23, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    I took one look at the trailers for this movie and thought, damn … that had potential but, nope. Nothing against these talented actresses, but it just rang so false to me, for all the reasons you articulated so well. Have a range of semi-realistic women, please, Hollywood producers. We have so many funny actresses who could have brought something to the party. Let someone be young and hot, sure. Let someone else be a little older, a little plumper. Let someone else be fat, 50, and over it. Way more entertaining to me.

  2. Hilary on May 26, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    And are their husbands played by actors who are twice their age? That’s another thing that Hollywood wants us to stomach: A 70yo actor with a 30 – something wife. Please.

  3. Amanda Whistle on May 5, 2016 at 4:44 pm

    I am shocked. Mila Kunis??? What a disappointment – how can they choose her to play this role??!! I’m sorry I’m not mentioning anything new to your blog – but after just watching the trailer, I feel I had to write something to support your blog. It’s insane. Right on line with 16 year old girls modeling fancy Haute Coutoure clothes in fashion magazines. When will the industry learn- it’s not real, and it’s not right. Why can Hollywood women not age, wrinkle and gray gracefully like Hollywood men?

    • M. on May 5, 2016 at 4:51 pm

      Amen! Totally agree and I think you said it better, clearer and with less words than I did…so kudos to you, my friend!

  4. Barbie on May 5, 2016 at 10:00 am

    May I? I truly commend you on your candor and your honesty and opinion and I have to say, I did laugh a few times. I know that you want to stop the unjust depiction and focus and unrealistic body types/images that plague our media. So, I COMpletely understand your fury. It’s totes valid. I would like, however, to share my visceral reaction to what you wrote as well. Somehow, I feel like we still are cheapening the female experience by doing what what we sadly do best, objectifying ourselves. We don’t mean to, we don’t want to, but, fuck, we do. You’ve managed to (while trying to advocate/protect us) bring it down again to the *way* we look. As I am sure you know, bad hair, gray roots, muffin tops, and big thighs aren’t things that make you a real mother. What makes you a mother is having children. I am not certain which actress has kids and who doesn’t, I don’t really give a rat’s ass. I don’t necessarily need the actors to have been raped, or put in prison, or be a murderer, or be in love, or whatever it is they are portraying for me to enjoy their role.

    I am so fiercely interested in what we DO as women. Our actions. Our characters. I am so over putting women under a microscope and raking them over the coals. I am raising two girls that know that it doesn’t matter what you look like, it is what you are doing that counts. Go, and do. Be.

    Anyhow, thank you for writing, and for allowing people to comment on your blog, M!

    • M. on May 5, 2016 at 10:38 am

      May I? You missed the point. I’m not objectifying us, I’m asking Hollywood to have a middle aged character be played by a middle aged actress. Do you know that they hired Jennifer Lawrence at 25 to play a middle aged woman with college aged kids. There’s no math that makes that work, only make-up artists. It’s a movie about railing against the perfection prison of being a mom and they are using actresses who aren’t even the epitome of perfection, but just 10-15 years younger than the moms they are depicting. I agree that actresses can play any part, any age, but what that does is tell us, you and your daughters, a lie. That middle aged women look like 32 year olds. Listen, I get your rap. I have two daughters too, but you missed my point because you think my blog is part of the problem. It’s not. It’s simply calling out Hollywood for not hiring women who are the age of the characters. Pretty simple shit.

  5. Patricia Douville on May 5, 2016 at 8:26 am

    You are so right, Meredith…..Hollywood is so out of touch with reality and puts such pressure on women ot look perfect all the time…even while cleaning up pee and puke….Of course we all wear makeup at 7am as we drive the kids to school! Of course we all can walk around with bra tops and yoga pants without a wee bit of flab and fat hanging over the waistline…..Man’s idea of perfection lives on……